My lovely bride-to-be Margo has accepted the opportunity to become a guest blogger. She is willing to share her insight as we trek through this planning process. Enjoy!
Take The I Out of Bride
Margo A. Rehm ( Hamilton )
If I am to believe We “Television for Women” and its plethora of bridal shows, I’m going about this whole process all wrong. I don’t refer to October 17, 2009 as MY DAY , I haven’t engaged in screaming matches with my bridesmaids. I don’t obsessively call my fiancé and chastise him for not taking more interest in the wedding color scheme. I don’t have a tiara or request to be called a princess. Our bridal party is not large enough to fill a lecture hall. Our wedding reception will not be suff oca ted by pink or Tiffany blue. I’m not refinancing anything, or maxing out credit cards so that our Cinderella’s Carriage-shaped wedding cake can be pulled by ice-sculpture horses. Generally speaking, I refrain from yelling obscenities at vendors, or my lovely wedding planner.
Nope. Clearly I’ve got this whole thing all wrong. According to popular lore about brides, yes, I’m screwing this whole thing up. I really should be taking advantage of all these people who are catering to MY NEEDS and desires. Yes, because that is what weddings are supposed to be about. Making the bride happy, not upsetting the bride. Doing exactly as the bride would have you do on all accounts, precisely when she asks or else!
Personally, I think making your wedding day “all about me” is pretty much the dumbest thing you could do. Correct me if I’m wrong, but a wedding is a ceremony, and a celebration of TWO people coming together before their family and friends. It’s about relationships; why as a bride its okay to destroy your relationships prior to the event is beyond me. Because we’ve all seen those shows, do you really want to be that bridesmaid who has to go in for a weight check 2 weeks before the wedding? Is that the tone you want at your ceremony?
Forget it. I’m excited about our wedding. I can’t wait for October 17, 2009 . After months of planning and work with everyone it will be simply amazing to see everything together, live and in person. Throughout this whole process my future husband and I have both agreed, the exchange of vows is the most important thing, a very close second is providing a nice party for all our friends and family. At the end of the day so long as I’m married to my man, and the people who attend have a great time our wedding will be a rousing success. This day is about love, and family, not me or my hair.
Of course I’ve had my moments. Every now and again my Mom and I get into it over something. My fiancé still won’t stop bitching about the harpist at our ceremony. (Seriously, if I have to hear about the damn harp one more time I might scream, he’s not even gonna hear it, he’ll have the jitters so bad standing at the alter.) Even so, it’s been an experience of a lifetime. Lacking bridal blowouts though I may be, I’m totally in love with our wedding. Don’t be fooled by my lackadaisical attitude. From our reception hall to our, DJ, the flowers, food, my dress; it’s all amazing. I really can’t believe its happening; I can’t wait to share this day with everyone.
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